Guidance that is manipulatively insincere rarely reflects what the speaker actually thinks; rather, **it’s an attempt to push the other person’s emotional buttons** in return for some personal gain. “He’ll be happy if I tell him I liked his stupid presentation, and that will make my life easier than explaining why it sucked. In the long run, though, I really need to find someone to replace him.” Apple’s Chief Design Officer Jony Ive told a story about a time when he pulled his punches when criticizing his team’s work. When Steve Jobs asked Jony why he hadn’t been more clear about what was wrong, Jony replied, “Because I care about the team.” To which Steve replied, “No, Jony, **you’re just really vain. You just want people to like you.**” Recounting the story, Jony said, “I was terribly cross because I knew he was right.” --- **Tags** — [[quotes]] , [[Johnny Ive]] , [[Steve Jobs]] , [[humility]], [[ego]], [[challenging-others]] , [[conflict]], [[crucial-conversations]] , [[feedback]] , [[management]], [[sincerity]] **Source** — [[202303281533 - B - Radical Candor]] **See Also** — [[Manipulative Insincerity]]