"The key word in our definition of a disagreement (an unacceptable difference between two perspectives), isn’t “difference.” It’s “unacceptable.” **Once the clash between perspectives becomes unacceptable, our motivation shifts from understanding minds to changing them, and from that shift springs a world of trouble."**(~[Location 163](https://readwise.io/to_kindle?action=open&asin=B081J97HLQ&location=163)~) -- [[202308170953 — AtN — See Arguments as opportunities for growth]] and [[202308170954 — AtN — Productive disagreement can be a superpower]] *** **Tags** — [[quotes]], [[conflict]], [[relationships]], [[collaboration]] **Source** — [[202308170952 — B — Why Are We Yelling]]