"When we’re having a disagreement with someone, it’s really useful to pay attention to which of the three realms we’re experiencing. **The three realms are: anxiety about what is true (the head realm of information and science), anxiety about what is meaningful (the heart realm of preferences and values), and anxiety about what is useful (the hands realm of practicality and planning).** Each of them represents a part of reality that has its own rules for validation and different implications in a conversation. What works to resolve a disagreement in one realm will not work in the other two." (~[Location 280](https://readwise.io/to_kindle?action=open&asin=B081J97HLQ&location=280)~) — [[202308170954 — AtN — Productive disagreement can be a superpower]] *** **Tags** — [[quotes]], [[anxiety]], [[collaboration]], [[conflict]] **Source** — [[202308170952 — B — Why Are We Yelling]]