"I had a hunch then, and have since confirmed, that **arguments live long lives in our heads. Sometimes they stick around for our whole lives, and we practice and refine them with different people at different times**. Others are linked to specific relationships, especially with siblings and parents and spouses, and certain topics and perspectives become landmarks to return to over time in these interactions." (~[Location 436](https://readwise.io/to_kindle?action=open&asin=B081J97HLQ&location=436)~) —[[202308170954 — AtN — Productive disagreement can be a superpower]] and [[202308181107 — AtN — Staying calm within disagreements can be a superpower]] *** **Tags** — [[quotes]], [[anxiety]], [[relationships]], [[mindfulness]], [[conflict]], [[collaboration]], [[parenting]], **Source** — [[202308170952 — B — Why Are We Yelling]]