"The takeaway here is that the voice of reason relies on having the voice of power to fall back on during escalations, and **is best suited to disagreements with people who share respect for the higher authority**, and are members of the same groups and institutions, that your reasons draw from. **If the voice of reason isn’t working, check which groups you both identify with to confirm that the cognitive dissonance you’re addressing is a concern for at least one group that you both belong to**." (~[Location 867](https://readwise.io/to_kindle?action=open&asin=B081J97HLQ&location=867)~) -- [[202308181107 — AtN — Staying calm within disagreements can be a superpower]] and [[202308170954 — AtN — Productive disagreement can be a superpower]] *** **Tags** — [[quotes]], [[voice-of-power]], [[voice-of-reason]], [[influence]], [[negotiations]], [[collaboration]], [[mediation]], [[leadership]], [[cognitive-dissonance]], [[in-group-out-group-bias]] **Source** — [[202308170952 — B — Why Are We Yelling]]