"It encourages us to **step back from the automatic impulse toward resolution in order to look for other ways the conflict might be productive. It sees a disagreement as a sign pointing to something we don’t yet fully understand, and seeks to learn from it instead of just getting rid of it.** Our conflict-resolution habits, and our conversational habits that unfold from them, evolved out of an environment where taking risks was extremely discouraged in favor of short-term wins. The short-term win, the resolution, is what we are now beginning to question, because it’s not the only fruit of disagreement that we’re interested in harvesting." (~[Location 951](https://readwise.io/to_kindle?action=open&asin=B081J97HLQ&location=951)~) -- [[202308181107 — AtN — Staying calm within disagreements can be a superpower]] and [[202308170954 — AtN — Productive disagreement can be a superpower]] *** **Tags** — [[quotes]], [[action-bias]], [[conflict]], [[collaboration]], [[mindfulness]], **Source** — [[202308170952 — B — Why Are We Yelling]]