"**When you’re being attacked, the fruit of security easily takes top priority. It’s the original and primary fruit of disagreement, and the one we’re still the most obsessed with**. Did someone try to take away your toy? Argue with them to get it back. In this way, disagreement protects your possessions. **Did someone insult you or your community? Argue with them to restore respect. In this way, disagreement protects your self-worth. Disagreements themselves can be interpreted as a threat to individuals and groups. You’re more secure in a group where people mostly agree with one another, and less secure in a group where everyone disagrees, because exile is one way to resolve disagreement. Groups, therefore, are incentivized to minimize disagreement**." (~[Location 1813](https://readwise.io/to_kindle?action=open&asin=B081J97HLQ&location=1813)~) -- [[202308181107 — AtN — Staying calm within disagreements can be a superpower]] and [[202308170954 — AtN — Productive disagreement can be a superpower]] *** **Tags** — [[quotes]], [[anxiety]], [[conflict]], [[collaboration]], [[in-group-out-group-bias]], [[self-reflection]], [[mindfulness]] **Source** — [[202308170952 — B — Why Are We Yelling]]