"**Connection differs from security because it often requires putting trust (and risk) into other people’s hands**. For example, if I hear that someone has beliefs about guns or vaccinations different from mine, and I seek to connect with them around these beliefs even though I consider their beliefs unsafe in a fundamental way, it might lead me to see the world from a new perspective, or to consider a new edge case, outcomes that ultimately benefit me more than seeking only to protect myself from the threat of their beliefs. **As with the fruit of growth, the fruit of connection also benefits from a foundation of safety relative to the threat. I’m more willing to let a stranger into my house to hear about their candidate’s positions if I don’t consider them a threat to my direct safety. And on the flip side, building connections with people successfully will improve our security**." (~[Location 1854](https://readwise.io/to_kindle?action=open&asin=B081J97HLQ&location=1854)~) -- [[202308181107 — AtN — Staying calm within disagreements can be a superpower]] and [[202308170954 — AtN — Productive disagreement can be a superpower]] *** **Tags** — [[quotes]], [[in-group-out-group-bias]], [[trust]], [[relationships]] **Source** — [[202308170952 — B — Why Are We Yelling]]