"[[Socrates]] taught that the true goal of dialogue was to reach moments of [[aporia]]—not to decide or become certain or be proven right but to realize that you don’t actually know what you’re talking about. How is this enjoyable? **It’s enjoyable because holding on to false certainty is painful and difficult, and has consequences down the road.** We all know that feeling of being backed into a corner and realizing that we’ve been defending the wrong position—at that point, the idea of conceding defeat is extremely humbling and potentially even humiliating. **However, if you are building arguments collaboratively, discovering that a previously held position is wrong is enjoyable, because you aren’t trapped behind it. You don’t have to concede defeat, because you learned something new and valuable by increasing your knowledge of what you don’t know."** (~[Location 2629](https://readwise.io/to_kindle?action=open&asin=B081J97HLQ&location=2629)~) — *** #### See Also * [[202308181107 — AtN — Staying calm within disagreements can be a superpower]] * [[202308170954 — AtN — Productive disagreement can be a superpower]] * [[202308181320 — AtN — Embrace the humility that comes with making mistakes]] * [[202308181241 — AtN — Embrace feelings of discomfort as they may reflect a growth mindset]] * [[202308180914 — AtN — Asking questions can be a superpower]] *** **Tags** — [[quotes]], [[Socrates]], [[socratic]], [[aporia]], [[uncertainty]], [[action-bias]], [[collaboration]], **Source** — [[202308170952 — B — Why Are We Yelling]]