"**We can pretend we didn’t hear or see things that were meant to offend. We can move slowly, giving extreme emotions time to dissipate. We can avoid situations and people (and even entire cities) where we know we tend to get upset or pissed off**. When we feel our temper rising up, we need to look for insertion points (the space between stimulus and response). Points where we can get up and walk away. When we can say, “I am getting upset by this and I would like not to lose my cool about it,” or “This doesn’t matter and I’m not going to hold on to it.”" ([Location 1693](https://readwise.io/to_kindle?action=open&asin=B07QY3CZ9L&location=1693)) --- **Tags** -- [[quotes]], [[environmental-design]], [[anger]], [[self-control]], [[mindfulness]] **Source** -- [[202409180133 - B - Stillness is the Key]] **See Also** -- [[202308180913 — AtN — You have the ability to reframe scenarios to protect your mental health]]