"The point that [[Henri Bergson|Bergson]] made about the future—**that it’s more appealing than the present because you get to indulge in all your hopes for it, even if they contradict each other**—**is no less true of fantasy romantic partners, who can easily exhibit a range of characteristics that simply couldn’t coexist in one person in the real world**. It’s common, for example, to enter a relationship unconsciously hoping that your partner will provide both an unlimited sense of stability and an unlimited sense of excitement—and then, when that’s not what transpires, to assume that the problem is your partner and that these qualities might coexist in someone else, whom you should therefore set off to find." --- **Tags** -- [[quotes]], [[relationships]], [[perfectionism]], [[acceptance]], [[expectations]], [[discipline]], [[self-control]], [[personal-values]] **Source** -- [[202410130434 - B - Four Thousand Weeks]]