"**We’re made so uneasy by the experience of allowing reality to unfold at its own speed** that when we’re faced with a problem, **it feels better to race toward a resolution—any resolution, really, so long as we can tell ourselves we’re “dealing with” the situation**, thereby maintaining the feeling of being in control. So we snap at our partners, rather than hearing them out, **because waiting and listening would make us feel—correctly—as though we weren’t in control of the situation**" --- **Tags** -- [[quotes]], [[action-bias]], [[control]], [[self-control]], [[character]], [[patience]], [[acceptance]] **Source** -- [[202410130434 - B - Four Thousand Weeks]]