"[[Bernie Noe]], the headmaster of the Lakeside School in [[Seattle]], recently shared the following story about his own daughter. It illustrates the maturity principle to a T. Noe’s family lives on campus, and as a teenager, his daughter was late to school almost every day. One summer, his daughter got a job folding clothes at the local American Eagle. **On her first day, the store manager said, “Oh, by the way, the first time you’re late, you’re fired.” She was stunned. No second chances? All her life, there’d been patience, understanding, and second chances**. "So then what happened? “It was amazing,” Noe remembered. “**Quite literally, it was the most immediate behavior change I’ve ever seen her make**.” Suddenly, his daughter was setting two alarms to make sure she was on time, or early, to a job where being late was simply not tolerated. As a headmaster tasked with shepherding young people along toward maturity, Noe considers his power to do so somewhat limited. “If you’re a business, you don’t care whether a kid thinks they’re special. What you care about is ‘Can you deliver? If you can’t deliver, hey, we don’t have any use for you.’” "**Lectures don’t have half the effect of consequences**. --- **Tags** -- [[quotes]], [[training]], [[influence]], [[patterns-of-behaviour]], **Source** -- [[20241030 - B - Grit]]