"So far, Alex and Tina seem the epitome of permissive parenting. I asked them whether they see themselves as such. “Actually,” Alex said, “**I think I’m allergic to spoiled children. Children must be loved and accepted, but then, without complications, they need to be taught: ‘No, you cannot hit your sister on the head with that stick. Yes, you must share. No, you don’t get to have everything you want when you want it.**’ "It’s no-nonsense parenting.” As an example, Alex pushed Francesca to do the physical therapy exercises prescribed by her doctors. She hated them. For years, she and her father battled. Francesca couldn’t understand why she couldn’t simply work around her limitations, and Alex believed his responsibility was to stand firm. As she says in her book: “**Though happy in many ways, the next few years were punctuated with intense rows replete with door-banging and tears and the throwing of objects**.” --- **Tags** -- [[quotes]], [[parenting]], [[permissive-parenting]], [[boundaries]], [[resilience]], **Source** -- [[20241030 - B - Grit]]