"First and foremost, **there’s no either/or trade-off between supportive parenting and demanding parenting**. It’s a common misunderstanding to think of “tough love” as a carefully struck balance between affection and respect on the one hand, and firmly enforced expectations on the other. In actuality, there’s no reason you can’t do both. Very clearly, this is exactly what the parents of Steve Young and Francesca Martinez did. The Youngs were tough, but they were also loving. The Martinezes were loving, but they were also tough. **Both families were “child-centered” in the sense that they clearly put their children’s interests first, but neither family felt that children were always the better judge of what to do, how hard to work, and when to give up on things**." --- **Tags** -- [[quotes]], [[parenting]], [[permissive-parenting]], [[demanding-parenting]], [[adversity]], [[boundaries]], **Source** -- [[20241030 - B - Grit]]