"In our family, we live by the Hard Thing Rule. It has three parts. **The first is that everyone—including Mom and Dad—has to do a hard thing**. A hard thing is something that requires daily deliberate practice. I’ve told my kids that psychological research is my hard thing, but I also practice yoga. Dad tries to get better and better at being a real estate developer; he does the same with running. My oldest daughter, Amanda, has chosen playing the piano as her hard thing. She did ballet for years, but later quit. So did Lucy. "This brings me to the second part of the Hard Thing Rule: **You can quit. But you can’t quit until the season is over, the tuition payment is up, or some other “natural” stopping point has arrived**. You must, at least for the interval to which you’ve committed yourself, finish whatever you begin. In other words, you can’t quit on a day when your teacher yells at you, or you lose a race, or you have to miss a sleepover because of a recital the next morning. You can’t quit on a bad day. "And, finally, the Hard Thing Rule states that **you get to pick your hard thing**. Nobody picks it for you because, after all, it would make no sense to do a hard thing you’re not even vaguely interested in. Even the decision to try ballet came after a discussion of various other classes my daughters could have chosen instead. --- **Tags** -- [[quotes]], [[habits]], [[routines]], [[consistency]], [[adversity]], [[exercise]], [[resilience]], [[parenting]], [[life-advice]], [[hard-thing-rule]], **Source** -- [[20241030 - B - Grit]]