"What’s odd about our preoccupation with remarkableness, though, is how it coexists with its opposite. **Most self-help books that aren’t about standing out are about fitting in: making friends, finding a like-minded partner, or realising that negative experiences – sadness, worry, stress – are really rather normal**. And social psychology is awash with evidence of how far we’ll go for the payoff of being the same. (In [[Solomon Asch]]’s celebrated groupthink experiments, for example, **75 per cent of participants were willing to disbelieve their own eyes when others in the room – actors posing as subjects – insisted that lines of wildly different lengths were actually the same**.)" --- **Tags** -- [[quotes]], [[groupthink]], [[outliers]], [[in-group-out-group-bias]], [[optimal-distinctiveness-theory]] **Source** -- [[20241114100017 - B - Help!]] Consider: to be extraordinary, by definition you strive to be an outlier. But is that what those people really want?