"Nowadays, many college graduates have no idea what they want to do, so they come home and sit there. Not a good plan. **How do you know when to let them find their way and when to intervene? Here’s my policy: They have to be doing something. Not doing anything is the problem.** And “something” does not mean playing video games, unless your child is serious about becoming a gaming programmer. What we want is for our children to contribute to society in some way. They should earn a paycheck, or have an internship. And there should be a limit on free rent. You want to give them time to land on their feet, but after six months or so, they should be paying to live in your home, even if it’s at an insider’s price. **This is also a part of respect: holding your children to standards. Respectful parenting is supportive and demanding**." --- **Tags** -- [[quotes]], [[trust]], [[parenting]], [[control]], [[self-control]], [[discipline]], [[character]], [[boundaries]], **Source** --