"Their system was easy to follow and seductive, with four basic tenets.
- One, **separate the person**—the emotion—**from the problem**;
- two, **don’t get wrapped up in the other side’s position** (what they’re asking for) but instead focus on their interests (why they’re asking for it) so that you can find what they really want;
- three, **work cooperatively** to generate win-win options; and,
- four, **establish mutually agreed-upon standards** for evaluating those possible solutions."
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**Tags** -- [[quotes]], [[its-not-about-you]], [[crucial-conversations]], [[interpersonal-skills]], [[negotiations]], [[zero-sum-games]],
**Source** -- [[202507101253 - B - Never Split the Difference]]