"There is a story of a man on all fours under a street lamp, searching for something. A policeman passing by asked what he was doing. “Looking for my car keys,” replied the man, who appeared slightly drunk. “Did you drop them here?” inquired the officer. “**No,” answered the man, “I dropped them in the alley.” Seeing the policeman’s baffled expression, the man hastened to explain, “But the light is much better here.”** "I find that my **cultural conditioning leads me to focus attention on places where I am unlikely to get what I want**. I developed NVC as a way to train my attention—to shine the light of consciousness—on places that have the potential to yield what I am seeking. What I want in my life is compassion, a flow between myself and others based on a mutual giving from the heart." --- **Tags** -- [[quotes]] [[keys-under-streetlight]], [[mindfulness]], [[counter-intuitive-thinking]], [[listening]], [[non-violent communication]], [[attention]] **Source** -- [[251115105628 - B - Nonviolent Communication]]