"First, we **observe what is actually happening in a situation**: what are we observing others saying or doing that is either enriching or not enriching our life? **The trick is to be able to articulate this observation without introducing any judgment or evaluation—to simply say what people are doing that we either like or don’t like**. "Next, we state **how we feel when we observe this action**: are we hurt, scared, joyful, amused, irritated? "And thirdly, we say **what needs of ours are connected to the feelings** we have identified. An awareness of these three components is present when we use NVC to clearly and honestly express how we are." --- **Tags** -- [[quotes]], [[202308180913 — AtN — You have the ability to reframe scenarios to protect your mental health]], [[non-violent communication]], [[listening]], [[mindfulness]], [[emotions]], [[emotional-intelligence]], [[judgment]], **Source** -- [[251115105628 - B - Nonviolent Communication]]