“It is important here not to confuse value judgments and moralistic judgments. All of us make value judgments as to the qualities we value in life; for example, we might value honesty, freedom, or peace. Value judgments reflect our beliefs of how life can best be served. **We make moralistic judgments of people and behaviors that fail to support our value judgments**; for example, “Violence is bad. People who kill others are evil.” **Had we been raised speaking a language that facilitated the expression of compassion, we would have learned to articulate our needs and values directly, rather than to insinuate wrongness when they have not been met**. For example, instead of “Violence is bad,” we might say instead, “I am fearful of the use of violence to resolve conflicts; I value the resolution of human conflicts through other means.” --- **Tags** -- [[quotes]], [[202308180913 — AtN — You have the ability to reframe scenarios to protect your mental health]], [[morality]], [[emotions]], [[personal-values]], [[judgment]], [[non-violent communication]] **Source** -- [[251115105628 - B - Nonviolent Communication]]