“When someone gives us a negative message, whether verbally or nonverbally, **we have four options as to how to receive it**.
- … one option is to take it personally by **hearing blame and criticism**.
- … a second option is to **fault the speaker**.
- … our third option would be to **shine the light of consciousness on our own feelings and needs**
- … a fourth option on receiving a negative message is to **shine the light of consciousness on the other person’s feelings and needs** as they are currently expressed“
---
**Tags** -- [[quotes]], [[feedback]], [[responding-to-feedback]], [[202308180913 — AtN — You have the ability to reframe scenarios to protect your mental health]], [[mindfulness]], [[empathy]], [[crucial-conversations]]
**Source** -- [[251115105628 - B - Nonviolent Communication]]