"A basic premise of NVC is that **whenever we imply that someone is wrong or bad, what we are really saying is that he or she is not acting in harmony with our needs**. If the person we are judging happens to be ourselves, what we are saying is, “I myself am not behaving in harmony with my own needs.” I am convinced that if we learn to evaluate ourselves in terms of whether and how well our needs are being fulfilled, we are much more likely to learn from the evaluation." --- **Tags** -- [[quotes]], [[judgment]], [[morality]], [[personal-needs]], [[mindfulness]], [[guilt]], [[emotions]], [[crucial-conversations]], **Source** -- [[251115105628 - B - Nonviolent Communication]]