"For those of you wishing to apply NVC, especially in challenging situations of anger, I would suggest the following exercise. “As we have seen, **our anger comes from judgments, labels, and thoughts of blame, of what people “should” do and what they “deserve.”** “**List the judgments that float most frequently in your head** by using the cue, “I don’t like people who are … ” Collect all such negative judgments in your head and then ask yourself, “When I make that judgment of a person, what am I needing and not getting?” “In this way, you train yourself to **frame your thinking in terms of unmet needs** rather than in terms of judgments of other people." --- **Tags** -- [[quotes]], [[202308180913 — AtN — You have the ability to reframe scenarios to protect your mental health]], [[judgment]], [[anger]], [[emotions]], [[mindfulness]], [[self-reflection]], [[labelling]], [[confirmation-bias]], **Source** -- [[251115105628 - B - Nonviolent Communication]]